Gabe's November Musing Mind newsletter
Topics inside include new manager tips, burnout, insights on navigating career development, plus the top videos from TikTok
Greetings from Gabe!
Here is your delivery of fresh thoughts from the Musing Mind, to keep you learning, inspired, and encouraged in your daily life.
Bookmark anything that looks like good reading later. I also encourage you to share a post or two with your network or someone you care about who might benefit from a read.
A musing from last month: on work and life
I’ve always felt attached to my work, in order to feed my craving for validation and to feel “okay” – or like I matter in life. This feeling I term conditional worthiness and is what ultimately led to my burnout. Recently, ahead of a meeting with a marketing client, I felt the old pattern return. If this doesn’t go well and I get negative (or lack of positive) feedback on my work, I won’t be okay. What I continue to realize on a regular basis is how we have all internalized this feeling of conditional worthiness: that we see ourselves as the sum of our quantifiable life deeds done, rather than seeing that we are the greater being behind the deeds done. We need to realize that we are more than our job titles – and the other roles we play in life. Yes, we need to do certain actions to get by day-to-day and we can take pleasure in doing them, too but:
We must always remember that we can choose to pursue a fulfilled lifestyle, where what we do serves our lives, without over-identification with the outcomes. In this lifestyle, our mental wellbeing is preserved, regardless of the outcomes of our actions.
Yet, our society’s gravity pulls us into an addicted lifestyle, where what we do defines our life worth, because we are over-identified with what we do. In this lifestyle, the outcomes control our mental wellbeing, and we are always at-risk for anxiety and depression.
This is the challenge for us citizens of the modern world, who live in a world amongst the endless addictions of accomplishments, status, and things. We have more convenience and possibility than at any other time in history, but as they say, with great power comes great responsibility.
And now, onto the essays!
First-time manager tip: managing delegation
Delegation is one of the most essential and tricky parts of being a manager. Learn several key strategies for getting delegation right.
5 self-discovery books for your Quarter-Life Crisis
Here were 5 books that were instrumental in helping me to navigate my own Quarter-Life Crisis.
How managers and leaders can help prevent burnout
Burnout is not a conscious choice and affects high achievers most. Find out how leaders and managers can prevent employee burnout in their organizations.
First-time manager tip: Intro to the Forming Storming Norming Performing model
Increase your effectiveness as a first-time manager by learning how the 4-stage Forming, Storming, Norming and Performing model of team cohesion works.
Warning signs of burnout: the 12 stages of Burnout
Find out whether you may be burning out at work, our may already be burnt out by learning these key warning signs.
Social Media Highlights
A prompt demonstrating the power of accepting what you know deep down.
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A post about an interview I did with a friend from middle school, about burnout and big life changes. Really encouraging for anyone going through life challenges, and looking for inspiration that things can get better or to take the step beyond fear towards a better life.
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Self-development
Self-discovery
Quarter-Life Crisis
Burnout
Career development
Leadership development
And if you’re curious, learn more about how working with a personal development coach can help you to live a more fulfilling life.